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Pick Up Women at The Office

First and foremost, test the waters: Unless the woman you’re after is undeniably attracted to you as well, chances are that your advances will not be welcome. So start off by always saying “hi” to her and smile at her every time you cross paths with her. Doing this frequently will make her aware of you. After you’ve done this a few times, you can progress to trying to extend your interaction with her beyond just saying “hi.” Do not try to pick her up or ask her out at this point. Just keep the conversations on work related stuff or other neutral topics. The purpose of this is to gauge how receptive she is simply talking to you and also to get her comfortable around you and used to talking to you.

Secondly, assuming you now know she has a receptive attitude when you talk to her, it’s time to start joking around with her. By this I mean it’s OK to tease her a little and be somewhat playful here and there. In other words, try to bring out both her sense of humor and yours. I say this because you don’t want to come across as just another boring guy at work that talks to her and only all about business and work related stuff.

Thirdly, now that you’ve established a little rapport with her, it’s time to invite her out for lunch or happy hour drinks after work or any other after hours activity. The important part here is to make sure you invite her to join you and other co-workers. Bringing other co-workers into the picture makes things a loss less threatening to her. Plus, she’ll feel a lot more encouraged to accept the invite since everyone else is going. At this point you’re still going to keep things friendly between the two of you since you don’t want to make any advances in front of other co-workers. It’s OK to flirt a little when you have those opportunistic alone moments with her.

Lastly, now that you’ve both been out of the office together – albeit with other co-workers – the idea of going out with you again some place else won’t seem so foreign to her anymore. A few days later while at the office, invite her to hang out with you one-on-one for lunch or preferably drinks after work. Again do this privately when you cross paths in the office hallway or parking lot or someplace similar. If she accepts, this would be a good time to exchange numbers. If she declines, then politely suggest another time with a smile.

Holiday Destinations for Single Men

  • Medellin, Colombia

The terrain surrounding this ancient city is one of the most diverse in Colombia and a great vacation for singles. It has tall mountain peaks, jungle highlands and lowlands, deep gorges and canyons, and amazingly hypnotic farming areas. Every type of terrain offers the opportunity for extreme guided excursions. Places like the Abbura Valley are unmatched in the world for seasonal color. Temesis offers endurance hikes and waterfall rappelling only minutes from the city. Of course, there are thousands of private places like Los Katios National Park, where the jungle meets a crystal clear pool, perhaps with a cave or hot spring. This is the ideal spot for a single guy to entertain a lovely local girl, or fellow traveler in a dream-like setting.

  • Rio De Janeiro, Brazil

Party Mecca for single men is Carnival, and Rio is its home base. Almost all year long, people in this city throw back the curtains for tourists. This is especially true for single guys who are extremely comfortable with leaving their self-loathing behind the moment the step off the plane. Festa (Portuguese for feast/celebration), is ingrained in Brazilian culture. In the ancient world, all roads led to Rome. In Rio, all roads lead to the beach, or a world class nightclub. There are the classics like Ipanema and the Copacabana, but other venues are becoming popular, especially if you have a favorite beach activity. Praia Vermelha is a surf hub, and Praia da Barra da Tijuca is famous for motor sports and parasailing. After working on the tan,go for dancing, drinks, and booty-watching at clubs like Leviano with its massive mosh pit, and Casa Rosa for laser-lit, edgy interaction. Rio might well be the perfect place for singles to holiday.

  • Bangkok, Thailand

Men from all over the world find Bangkok to be a fascinating study in opposites. There’s no argument that adult entertainment in all forms is a major draw, but local laws and customs must be respected at all times. It’s absolutely possible to find any type of entertainment that you want, but it must be enjoyed on the culture’s terms. Bangkok is like a single traveller’s fantasy theme park, but definitely ahem, lives up to its name. The people of Bangkok are exotic creatures in familiar westernized, U.S. and Euro-style packages. They are very accommodating to the expectations of single male tourists, and have the inviting currency exchange rate to boot. Restaurants like Xing Fu satisfy a guy’s stomach. Fitness and outdoor gyms help a guy retain his muscle tone while away from home. Elephant riding in the Khoa Yi National Park provides opportunities for selfies to make friends jealous. Adult clubs, lounges and hotel concierge like will certainly where out a single guy’s eyes. As a single guy wrestles with the notion of settling-down in life, he can get the “wildness” out in this huge bachelor party of a destination.

  • Ibiza, Spain

Ibiza is an island getaway steeped in old world culture including religion, sport, and cuisine. The deepest blue imaginable comes from an interface with the Mediterranean Sea, and the deepest brown is found in the eyes, hair and skin of some of Europe’s most alluring women making it the dream holiday for singles. A network of inviting villages each have town centers emerging from a catholic chapel like the Capilla de la Virgen de Lourdes, or a school or monastery. As far as social activities, anything having to do with playing on the sand or in the water is available. This area is very family friendly, so singles fun remains extremely intimate and low key. Single men should try offering a lonely local girl a glass of wine followed by a conversation on art, and a paddle board session afterward.

  • Cancun, Mexico

This resort city is obviously popular with the college Spring Break crowd for reasons that also appeal to any single man. Every dinner plate, public transport, cabana, fishing charter, beach chair rental, and bottle of Jose Cuervo is affordable. This means single guys in every stage of life can find a way to have fun. Spend a few days hiking in the Yucatan inland camping near the Chichen Itza Pyramid, then join a beach rave with some new Mexican friends for the rest of the trip.

Valentine’s Day

With Valentine’s Day just around the corner, you must be surprised how all the so-in-love-couples have already started showering their love for each other. Valentine’s Day can be a nightmare if you have picked up the wrong gift and it can be a sweet dream if you are picking up the right gift. But if you are single, this is a great time to pamper yourself. Being single is not about being sad on this day of love, rather you can choose to enjoy yourself.

Benefits of Being Single on this Beautiful Day

We all love being in relationships and want to stay with a person who love, respect and care for us. But being single does not mean it is the end of the world. Being single on Valentine’s Day, come with a lot of benefits that gives you a chance to cheer up. So without wasting time, let’s get to know more about the benefits that all the single people enjoy.

  • Save a Lot of Money

There is nothing bad about being single, until unless you start doubting yourself. Everyone who is in a relationship is on their toes to find a perfect gift for their partner. On this day, the cost of chocolates, flowers and soft toys almost double in most stores. Anything that is pink, white or red is highly expensive. So all those single people out there, you will be actually happy that you are not a part of this expensive mess.

  • Pink is Not Your Color

If you are someone who does not like the color pink, this is a great chance to escape this color. Valentine’s Day often synonymous with pink and red color as these are regarded as the color of love. Take a look around you, which is the most prominent shade that you can see? Being single gives you a chance to opt out of this situation. You just need to be happy with yourself and pick up a color that you love.

  • You Can Flirt With Others

This is one of the most amazing benefits that most of the singles are happy to enjoy and it gets extra special on this day. You are not the only single person around as you will find others to company you. So go on and try your luck. Don’t sit in a corner and frown upon your single status, rather choose to keep your options open and enjoy your freedom.

  • Be Yourself & Relish the Celebrations

Valentine’s Day also gives you a chance to dress down yet enjoy the day. You can be yourself without worrying about dressing up to impress your partner. You can arrange a pajama party and watch your favorite movie or go out with a group of friends and indulge in shopping. Don’t miss out the chance to love yourself on this day.

 

Ways to Impress Women

Following are the top five ways to impress the real women:

  1. Just be yourself – Instead of imitating someone, it is better to be just the way you are. You don’t need to do a lot of things to impress us; all you need to do is be who you are. We like men who know how to express their emotions and put their innermost feelings into words. Unless you do that, you can never have the right kind of a woman walking by your side.
  2. Don’t be too hard on yourself – The worst thing that most of the men do is strive hard to impress women. Don’t do that – all you’ve got to do is keep it simple and learn how to respect us and you would gain our attention. Defend us, if you are given the opportunity and if your stand makes a different in our lives, and be with us, when we need you.
  3. Don’t try to impress us – I know a lot of men do this – they try to impress the ladies with their style, fashion and a lot of such materialistic things. Instead of playing the impression game, which does not last for long, try to be casual and keep it low. If a woman falls in love with you for your style, remember, she has to see you in your informal outfits at home in future, when you both plan to settle down together.
  4. Express yourself in bed – Let’s face it – most of the women now know what they want from their men. They are open and now believe in communicating about what they want in bed. If you have a woman in your life and you want to sustain her, you have surely got to be good in bed.
  5. Keep her satisfied – I don’t say that intimacy is the only thing between two lovers, but it is obviously one of the most important things that allow two people to maintain love between each other. Keep her relaxed and satisfied in bed and see the glow on her face.

Find Your Soulmate

  • Side Effects of Online Dating 

With online dating being on the rise, it has taken a lot of the mystery and excitement out of dating because it is too easy. We then make lists based on judgments on what we think we want to screen people. Much of what we could be looking for could also be on the defense to avoid the pain from the side effects of the online dating system. Because there are so many choices, we dismiss each other like numbers, which creates a great disconnect. Online dating can be useful for some who genuinely have a hard time meeting people but within moderation. Its overuse can become a distraction to finding one’s soulmate. So let’s refresh our memories on how to use our divine guidance to understand what our hearts really want, not what the ego wants.

  • The Purpose of a Relationship

The purpose of a relationship and that of a soulmate relationship is to teach us how to love more fully. To get there, we have lessons to learn, habits and beliefs that we need to let go of. Love is something that should automatically flow through us when we are feeling pure. Therefore what we need to focus on is letting go of blockages and remembering our pure state. This is very important to be clear with because our egos want to protect us from our blockages. The whole process is far easier when we are able to surrender to all of it. This is what divine guidance will take us through as we ultimately want to realign ourselves with emotional balance. The closer we are to reaching this, the closer we are to attracting our soulmate whom can show up at any time.

  • Understanding the Journey

A journey to finding our soulmate is a journey that starts from within. The emotions of finding the right person are very intense, therefore we need to have achieved the right emotional balance to be able to handle them. It is not all easy like a fairy tale, they will challenge us to learn the big lessons we have to learn and we have to be ready to handle that. That’s also a sign that we met the right person. They are there to show us the path to surrender our ego, as that’s how true love will come out. It’s all part of the divine plan. This is why the journey is all about preparing ourselves emotionally. The more we ignore this, the more painful experiences we may have to go through to realize this truth. However, with the right vision, the path will be very exciting, fulfilling and joyful!

  • Recognizing Divine Guidance

Divine guidance comes in the form of meaningful experiences, signs, mysterious coincidences and synchronicity all with the purpose of showing us what we need to learn. We will develop our intuition as we learn to read the messages.

Things Singles Can Relate to

For the single fellas, here is something to laugh about. The things that are too real for you.

Default hotel and restaurant offers are for couples

Why will you pay for an extra when you’re the only one having dinner or occupying the room or having dinner. Right here, you will realize that it’s just the default offer and that you can ask them to prepare something good for only one person. Yes, the realization comes in that people are expected to be with someone else. No pressure!

Being single is happy and sad

Happiness is a choice and you always choose to be it. But, there are days that you feel awful for not having someone to cuddle with in the heavy rain. You are fine being alone, because who needs someone else when you can do everything. But, there are moments when you feel like you have been left out and deprived of the happiness of loving and being loved. It’s sad, but you’re happy with the perks of just looking after yourself.

Single quotes everywhere

Opening Twitter and Instagram feels like an overflow of quotes describing your single life. You feel like everything posted on these sites are for you. Sometimes, you’re tempted to post a thing or two because it just hits close to home. But, you have welcomed the realities of singlblessedness that it does not matter what others say.

You get nervous about first dates

You are a ball of nervous energy that you bail out of dates. The last date you had was years ago and you forgot the protocols of the having a first date. So, you are more likely to refrain from dating (and dating sites for that matter) or even cancel date plans because you’re nervous. Better avoid puking your dinner or choking on those salads than go through the ordeal of dating. It is no wonder why you stay single.

Be bitter at some point

Most of the time, lovely couples does not bother you. They even make you wish to meet the perfect partner someday. Yet, there are times when you just want to see the world burn together with the sweet couple from your neighborhood. The statement “nothing lasts forever” has crossed your mind while seeing couples having fun.

Finding Love

Step 1: Get a pen and paper, whiteboard, or notebook on your device, and write down the 10 qualities that are most important to you in a partner. And remember, this is to help you move forward, so no cheating! For example, “attractive, tall, green eyes, black hair, athletic” does not count as one quality but 5. And “kind, generous, loyal” is 3 qualities, not 1. Take your time writing down the 10 qualities. These are the 10 qualities that you want more than any others, so again, no cheating. Keep it to 10.

Step 2: Now, scan this list of 10 qualities that you have written down. Think about how you feel about these qualities. Then be very strong and let go of 5 of them. Yes, I know this can be hard, but do it anyway. There is a reason for that. This leaves you with 5 qualities that are the most important of all to you in a partner.

Step 3: OK, now for the really interesting part. Cut the list down to 3 qualities and no more. Take your time, you can experiment with it, think how you feel, and look at the list until you have whittled it down to 3 qualities. These are the qualities that are important for you in a partner. This focuses your attention, and it is said that we can usually only find a partner that satisfies 3 qualities that are important to us. For example, if it is “Honest, Loyal, and Black-haired”, then you know not to waste time on dishonest people (do they cheat on their tax, or tell lies in social groups in order to make themselves seem more interesting?), disloyal people (are they disloyal to their employer or cheated on their partner, for example?), or people with blond hair (because that would not keep your interest looks-wise long-term). Of course, these are just 3 qualities I plucked out of thin air with no prejudice to blond, red, brown, black, or bald-haired amazing partners but you get the idea.

Single and Waiting

Here are a few things to consider while waiting for your future hubby to arrive:

  1. Stop blaming him for not being able to fulfill your need to get married just because you feel you are ready! Everything happens for a reason and maybe the reason that you are waiting is because you are not as ready as you think.
  2. Dig deep. Take a look at yourself and ask if there is anything that you can work on to make yourself the very best you there is to offer. Are there any childhood troubles that haunt you or hold you back? Are there secrets that you have never discussed that have negatively shaped you into who you are today? Did you pick up a couple of undesirable traits from your parents that you wish you hadn’t? What about past relationships that you still hold resentment or shame about? Now is the time to reflect and face any demons or excess baggage that you carry. Try counseling or therapy and prayer to help you talk about it. This will not be easy, but God is watching, and sometimes He won’t allow you to move forward because He needs you to drop some things from your past. These things can get in the way of the role He needs you to play paired with your husband and your purpose. Your marital stagnation may not be Boaz’s fault at all. Your future hubby is going to need a helpmate not a patient.
  3. Have you ever really listened to the lyrics of the song “Bag Lady” by Erykah Badu? STOP RIGHT NOW and YouTube it. It’s quite deep and the message is clear. The bag lady portrayed in the song isn’t carrying physical baggage but the emotional kind. She states “Bag lady you gon’ miss your bus, you can’t hurry up, cuz you got too much stuff”, “one day, he gon’ say you crowding my space”. The lyrics elude to the fact that carrying too much baggage will delay life progress, slow you down from establishing successful relationships. It can get in the way of a current relationship, creating doubt by your mate that there is enough room for him along with your emotional baggage. Spend this time of waiting, reflecting and challenging yourself to learn more about you and face the tough stuff BEFORE you bind your man into marriage.
  4. It doesn’t have to be that deep. If in review of yourself your findings say that you are not emotionally challenged but yet Boaz is still not here, then use the time to check off a few bucket list items. Take yourself out of your comfort zone and amaze yourself about what you thought you could never do. Experience something new, discover new things.

Assess a Long Distance Relationship

The Challenges

  • If you are an insecure, anxious, needy or jealous person, then a long distance relationship is likely not for you. Until you learn to love yourself enough to not worry about what your partner is doing, and to take loving care of your own feelings, it will likely be very stressful for you.
  • If you are an extroverted person who regenerates with your partner and with others, not seeing your partner on a daily basis might be very hard for you, especially if you are a stay-at-home parent or you work at a job where you don’t have much interaction with others.
  • If you are a working mother or father, or you have a number of young children, it may be quite challenging for you to not have the help of your partner.
  • If consistent, daily in-person connection and affection is important to you, then a long distance lifestyle would not work well for you.

The Positives

  • If you are a more introverted person who needs a lot of time alone to regenerate, it might work well for you to not be with a partner on a daily basis.
  • If you or your partner are both very busy, achievement-oriented people, getting together on weekends or even once a month for a weekend might be a lifestyle that works for you.
  • If both you and your partner love your time alone, then a long distance relationship might be ideal for you.
  • If the two of you love each other but you often trigger each other in ways that lead to distance or conflict, then not seeing each other as much might be just the thing that saves your relationship.
  • If you love to travel and you are a very social person who makes friends wherever you go, and your partner is a quieter stay-at-home person, you might find that you each get your needs met through a long distance relationship.
  • If you tend to be a person who gives yourself up a lot and has a fear of engulfment, you might feel much safer in a long distance relationship.

Sometimes people who live in different cities meet one another and thoroughly enjoy their relationship – as long as they live apart. But fears of engulfment might get triggered if they make plans to live together.

Creating a Positive Long Distance Relationship

Relationships can be hard, but long-distance relationships bring a new meaning to the idea of what is hard in the relationship. The emotional, psychological, spiritual and physical needs of the relationship must be fulfilled in alternative ways. Long-distance relationships can be successful when they are cultivated on the art of communication and trust between the partners. Prioritizing your goals with your partner and speaking with them and making it known to others how you feel about them can help intensify your relationship.

Keep your Skype or phone call dates. Cancelling on your partner might imply to them, they are an afterthought or just an alternative if nothing better is going on. Keep your scheduled Skype/phone calls as you would a date. Make sure you inform your friends or family of your plans to spend the evening talking to your partner and that you are unavailable at that time. If you need to cancel for an emergency, let your partner know so they don’t feel stood up.

Communicate about anything and everything. Be honest about how you are feeling, share what you are passionate about and what activities you are currently involved in. Talk to your partner with video chat, instant messenger, email. Write an old fashioned letter to your lover as a surprise or a romantic gesture. Send your partner little gifts in the mail you think they would enjoy. It is the little things that let them know you are thinking of them during your everyday when you are apart.

Visit each other and never cancel them unless it is an emergency. Refusing to commit to an agreed visit or cancelling on your partner for alternative vacation can cause irrevocable damage. By staying committed to your visits, you will demonstrate to your partner your desire to be with them on an everyday basis in the future. If you no longer feel the relationship is working out or have some fear about visiting, discuss this issue with your partner instead of cancelling on them and lying about the reason. Resolving these issues can help you reevaluate and strengthen your relationship.